Thursday, June 1, 2017

You've been GHOSTED!


You have got a great thing going on with a member of the opposite sex; out on a couple of exclusive dates, enjoyed your time together and it seemed like there's a potential there to form a deeper, more meaningful bond. Then out of the blue, the person that seemed interested in you stopped answering your calls, texts, and seemed to have suddenly lost interest in to further any communication.

This sudden disappearing act is known as GHOSTING. A term used to describe people's experience when the person whom they like abruptly shifts gears and directions. It is when someone whom you think you're jiving with suddenly stops communicating with you without any explanations or goodbye. When this happens, you are left wondering about the next step to take. Will you move on? Accept the reality? or Will you hold on and wait?

The best way to deal with this form of emotional and physical rejection is by trying to remember these things:

1. Admit that you got hurt. It's okay to tell yourself that you got hurt when the good things were disrupted, especially when you thought that there was hope that the relationship can extend beyond friendship.

2. Don't put yourself down - sympathize with yourself. It's okay to feel the loss. It's normal.

3. Talk to someone. Don't keep the hurt to yourself. Go out with your friends. Tell them what happened and how you feel. Letting out the emotions is acknowledging them. Be angry, cry, yell if you must, just let it out.

4. Take care of yourself, physically, emotionally, mentally, and psychologically. Exercise, move around, get enough sleep, and eat healthy. These will help lower the production of stress hormones. 

5. Think positively. Try to look at the situation from a different angle. Maybe the person who ghosted you thought that disappearing will be good for you. It's difficult to do, but may be you can give the person the benefit of the doubt.

6. Let GO. You may have fallen, but the best thing that you can do for yourself is to get back up and start walking again. Just remember to do it on your own time, at your own pace. And, try not to date someone on a rebound. You don't want to get ghosted again. 

Based on the article found over at Psychology Today

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