Saturday, November 19, 2016

Fade




all my wants are tied to the darkness deep
blackness i beckon wrap these thoughts that creep
for what eludes me is the peace of night called sleep
mind in chaos; turmoil in all corners leap

fade, fade like the dying stars that spent their light
fade away from my memories away from hindsight
fade, fade away all the thoughts of you
fade away to let in something new

you are nothing best left forgotten
you are nothing but experience that now has rotten
you are nothing best thrown aside
you are nothing but a memory fading from inside



Brightest Blessings!

Halie



Tuesday, November 1, 2016

Sliver



You become someone's light in the dark
A candle that flickers when everything else is stark
You shine and spread a sliver of hope to some
A flame that dances and sways to the somber wind's tone
Slowly the the light faints and dims
And the flame dies, slowly it drowns in its own waxy stream

Brightest Blessings!

Halie

Wednesday, September 14, 2016

Thoughts to the Moon


 as far as the eyes can see there is nothing but darkness
as far as the heart can feel there is nothing but emptiness
the body is nothing but a discarded empty shell
soul was taken by a too potent of a spell
a mind confused all lost in a daze
tortured with nothing but a dream inside a maze
lips calling and screaming into the vast nothingness
ears straining for a voice, a call to be shaken back to sense
are those wings? is that a figure in the night?
only a shadow, fleeting running away because of fright
luna, o beauty seen by mortals in need
the thoughts of this prayer, a wish you might heed
take away the sorrow, assist these wings to flight
to join you in serenity in forever night



Brightest Blessings!

Halie

The Sun Sets


i watch the horizon as it changes hues
colors abound from reds, pinks, violets, and blues
the beauty i witness takes my breath away
as the sun sets to signal the close of day

as this marvel unfolds before my eyes
a memory returned and now hard do i try
to stifle the all too familiar sting now i feel
a pain that i know too well of wounds unhealed

engulfed in its embrace the darkness came
reminder of a word that is called your name
as i remember the promise you once had given
tears now came, uncalled and unbidden

for the last time, i will allow myself to shed the tears
along with screams of pain that will never reach your ears
as i finish i allow myself to pick up the pieces
of my heart that was shattered by all the broken promises

i look at the sky and remember the sun
 and what it whispered as it sets to await a new morn
i have seen true beauty, understood what it meant
close the day that is you and me, a love that has burnt

too soon, too fast, from each other we have faded
i have grown tired of the times for you i have waited
now it is time that i bid you goodbye
tell you that our sunset has come this is not a lie


Brightest Blessings!

Halie

Monday, September 5, 2016

Let The Tears Fall



 In silence she sits
In darkness she grieves
Alone she cries quietly
Alone she drops her bravery

Her heart heavy with grief
Her body shaking like an autumn leaf
Her mind filled with thoughts of happy times
Her entirety now for him away it pines

And as she writes the silent tears fall
And as she remembers crumble does her wall
Memory serves her bitter pill and pain
And now she wonders when will herself she regain

A broken heart shattered in pieces
Healing she yearns; the only thing she wishes
Her prayer now is for the rains to stop
For her heart to mend and the tears to not anymore drop


Brightest Blessings!

Halie

Thursday, September 1, 2016

Soul and Love


the big question is:

what happens to the souls when those two people who claimed that they are in-love decide to let go of the that thing called rubber band?

i felt your soul touch mine
although i know we have to let go in time
in this life, we can't stay together
we can't promise each other the word forever

who will first let the other end go
will it be you or me, no one really knows
when the moment comes, who will keep the hurt mum?
to the snap of the band who will be the one who is numb?

as we both realize the truth laid between and before us
who will be the first to cross that river in a rush?
does it really matter if it is you or I?
because at the end both or one will eventually cry

has the inevitable end finally come?
though I know that the love has not gone
is this the bittersweet end that I have feared
is the time for goodbye finally here?

my love, my sweet, sweet love
always i will treasure the reality that you and i wove
 eternally i will be grateful for what you have given me
a piece of your soul, your being, because goodbye now it must be


Brightest Blessings!

Halie

Thursday, August 25, 2016

Love

you have been so generous by giving me your precious time
i have seen you move mountains just to be mine
you have crossed rivers just to be with me
do not fret all is appreciated because efforts i did see

at this point it is my assurance you need
be still, be calm all those you will receive
in this your hour of uncertainty and fear
worry not for i am here, i am always near

to you the one who have given me much
i want to lock you in my arms, tell you hush
i have missed you and i love you, every single day
to hell and back i am with you for always


Brightest Blessings!

Halie

Clouds and Rain


clouds are moving fast
yet they seem to stay and last
sign of how i feel inside is the rain
pouring hard like my pounding pain

some time ago the breeze blows thoughts away
now it seems to press them in so they stay
cold breeze once comfort it brings
now like a bee, it hurts and stings

my first thought today was all of you
emotions within like a storm that brews
barelling down like a steam engine train
on a track called my heart crushed beneath the frame

stay or go, answers are sought
logic and emotions in confusion has fought
whomever wins i know the price
it is me who will lose in this one big fight


Brightest Blessings!

Halie

Wednesday, August 24, 2016

Moment


'Twas that moment when I realized how much I feel for you
When I gazed into your eyes and felt what was inside to be true
Words became meaningless in that instant you held me in your arms
Because at that moment I felt safe, loved and away from all world's harm

'Twas that moment when I looked into your eyes that I knew
That the love you offered and gave in time it grew
'Twas at that moment when I felt your soul reach out to mine
'Twas that moment when I knew our souls have intertwined

Brightest Blessings!

Halie

Thursday, August 18, 2016

Tuesday, August 16, 2016

Battery Safety and Vaping

Back to basics this time. 

Many new vapers (users of electronic cigarettes) have been asking us long time users about the clouds (vapor) that we produce, the best build for it, the atomizer, the settings used (if you have something that's called a variable wattage mod or simply plain understanding what and why a vaper needs an advanced set-up.)

Why do more advanced users want or need a better set-up?

Most if not all of us long term users have started with those cigarette like looking electronic cigarettes. As time passes, we start looking for something a little better. Bigger clouds, better flavor or taste from the e-juice, and sometimes even the looks of the unit comes into play. 

We start upgrading our units from the more simple mechanical mods like this one:



to the more sleek looking electronic cigarettes like these Variable Wattage Box Mods: 

By the way, variable mods are electronic cigarettes in the real sense. They have circuit boards, wiring, led screens. You'll need the basics, atomizers, eliquids, batteries to make them work. You can turn it off and on, set wattage, etc before you use it. A little more complicated than the full mechanical tube mods.



But all these units cannot run without a battery to supply power to them. What I would like to touch on today would be the basics of battery safety. 

While some would find it easy to understand the basics of Ohm's Law and it's relation to vaping, not everyone would have the patience to actually read through it nor would they have the patience to understand it.

So before asking as to how it would be possible for you can get vapor like this


I suggest that you familiarize yourself with battery safety in order to avoid accidents like over heating of the batteries which can then eventually blow up in your hands, worse yet your face while you vape. 

If reading the basics of Ohm's Law is a little bit too much of a chore for you, here is a basic calculation that can help you vape safely.

Battery Voltage/Resistance = Amps

The normal rate of an 18650 battery is at 3.7 Volts
Have someone check the Ohms or Resistance of your atomizer, let's put it at safest 0.5 Ohms
Then check the Amps of your battery, usually it's at 30 amps. Though, I suggest to calculate it at (-)5, so, let's put it at 25Amps.

My current build is 0.46 Ohms
The voltage is at 3.4
My battery's amps (I put it at 25Amps)

Let's check if my build is safe:

3.4/0.46 = 7.39Amps (that's what my build pulls out of the battery whose discharge rate is at 25Amps). That means I'm using about 30% of my power for my build consistently on my variable wattage mod. It also means that I'm not pushing my battery to the limits and that it's safe for me to continue vaping.

What exactly happens when you go over the amps rating of your battery?

There's the tendency for your battery to overheat, then vent. If this wouldn't be enough, then it goes boom! 

So, what do you do?

Remember that the safety limits of using a battery: NEVER go above 80% of your Amps rating.

After computing using this basic formula and you get figures that are near, at or above 80%, consider rebuilding your coils. And always assume that the amperage of your battery is lower than what's stamped on them. It's better to be on the safe side rather than find out that you were wrong when it's already too late. 

Vape safely!



Brightest Blessings!

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Sunday, August 14, 2016

The Mad Hatter Body with The Avocado 22, A New Set-Up

While I planned my Avocado 22 to stay with either my Pico or my husband's Void Ray, we both realized that it guzzles up e-juice so fast not unlike the big or old cars that drink up gasoline like sipping it through those big holed straws. 

Because of this, hubby decided to give it back to me. So, without a body for it to go with, I thought about buying a new mod called the Mini Volt. 

Photo Credit to UberVape

It's so small and it has a built in battery that I thought it would be a nice back-up just in case I forget to charge up the other batteries for the Pico. However, I decided against it when the person I spoke with at the shop told me that the battery may last only for 3 hours. I was like, DANG! I can't have that. What if I need to be out for a whole day and I don't have any other 18650s with me? Nah! I said no to the unit. I ended up just buying some batteries for the hubby who now has a total of 3. Good job!

I also remembered that I still have my Mad Hatter Full Mech Hybrid body waiting for an atomizer to come its way. And an idea struck me like lightning! Why not pair the Avocado with it then? I tried them together and this is how they look like when joined.





The Mad Hatter mech has 2 batteries for it, while my Pico has 3. Now the only thing that I have to remember, especially when going out is to make sure that all 5 of them are fully charged and ready to use.  Why put them together? I noticed that even with the tank filled up, I don't use it as fast when it's with the mechanical mod. Hmmm, I wonder why. Still, it's a good thing. I now have two serviceable units, 2 working atomizers and 5 18650 batteries! Hurray for not worrying about being able to vape when I'm out with my friends even for an entire day!

Brightest Blessings!

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Thursday, August 11, 2016

Avocado 22 RDTA Review

I have been looking for an RDTA for quite sometime now. I have to admit that dripping when you're out with your friends having a good time can be quite annoying. So, here I was looking for one when I chanced on an Avocado 22 at Vape King in SM Megamall. 

It was the last one on stock! So before I went to church, I told the shop keeper that I would come back and purchase it after I go to mass. Seeing probably that I was serious as heart attack, he immediately put it in another case and took it out of the display shelf. Long story short, I went back and bought it.

The Kit Comes with:

  • The atomizer
  • 1 extra glass tank 3mL capacity
  • Ceramic stopper
  • Extra screws
  • A Hex Key
  • Extra O Rings
  • 1 Wide Bore tip
  • 1 510 type tip
I originally planned to pair it with my VW iStick Pico mod. After several uses though, I noticed that I go through a bottle of e-juice faster than I can say, "What the hell?!?"


The Pros:

  • It's easy to build
  • The deck has a good juice well that directs extra liquid towards the wick holes thus saturating the cotton thoroughly.
  • The wick holes are big enough that it's so easy to put the cotton in it to go down to the tank area.
  • The juice tastes better. This is probably because of the ceramic stopper that comes with its air holes making the chamber smaller thus concentrating the flavors better. 
  • You can choose to either use the tank as reservoir. Meaning you build it like how you would a regular dripping atomizer and just tilting the tank every now and then to saturate the cotton.
The Cons:

  • Personally, the juice tastes better that it makes me chain vape a lot. 
  • Paired with my Pico, I noticed there were times that the mod would not recognize the atomizer. I had to tighten the screws (and I mean all of them) in order for it to be recognized again.
  • Quite complicated to take apart. It comes in apart in about 6 parts. The deck, the base, the glass, the top cap, the drip tip, and the cap with the air holes. If you include the ceramic baffle/stopper, that would make it 7. So, it might take a while for you to take it apart and clean it so that you can use a different flavored juice in the tank. You also need to be careful with it because the screws are quite small. You need to make sure that you build it on a plain white cloth to see everything. 
Overall Impression:

While it does take some getting used to, especially for those who are avid users of the much simpler dripping atomizers, getting an Avocado for a back-up RDTA is well worth it. I've been using it now for about a week and I have yet to experience any leaks from it. 

If you have anything else to share or add, or even a question to ask me, please shoot me an email! I'll try to respond in the soonest possible time.

Brightest Blessings!

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Friday, June 17, 2016

iStick Pico Mod A Short Review


 I bought this from Good Fumes Araneta Center Cubao last Saturday, June 11, so I've been using it for a week now.


The iStick Pico with the Mad Hatter Mini Atomizer

Pros:

- the weight of the unit with the battery and the Mad Hatter atomizer makes up for its size. I am aware that there's something in my hand and there's little tendency for  you to drop it accidentally.

- the battery lasts for about 8 hours before it goes low batt. I'm a moderate vaper.

- firing at 25W, with a resistance of 0.60 Ohms gives decent clouds and the taste of the juice is good. I was actually able to make one 50mL bottle last the entire week.



- there's a firing timer. I don't fire for more than 5 seconds, but if in case you're the type to vape deep, the unit cuts off power if you press it for longer than 10 seconds.


Cons:

- because of the Zinc alloy material used in its construction, the unit does get a bit warm if you chain vape.

- when the battery's power is too low, you can't turn the unit off. What you have to do is to unscrew the discharged battery. It's like a hard restart for your PC/Mobile phone.

- the unit turns on by itself when you put in a fresh battery. I would have appreciated if I have to turn it on manually after putting the battery

And dang, is it small!

Void Ray and Pico Size Comparison


Overall though, the Pico Mod with my Mad Hatter atty is worth the purchase. It's got the heft that I am so used to, especially after I switched from full mechanical stainless steel mods. Once you get the right build, you can actually make the juice last because you get a full taste of the flavor. And the cloud production, pretty decent. I'm enjoying the darn thing!

If you want to ask me questions, please don't hesitate to send me an email.

Stores that may carry this unit include

Denkat Robinson's Galleria

Green Puff Megamall

Vape or Crave Cubao Shoe Expo

Mistwood Vape Cafe

Brightest Blessings!

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Thursday, June 16, 2016

Mad Hatter Mini Kit


So, I have been using this full mechanical electronic cigarette for a month now. It was bought last  May as an early birthday present for me by my husband. Yehey! I have a new shiny mech! He bought it for about Php 2,000 (roughly USD 45) from Mistwood Vape Cafe in Eastwood City, Libis. 

Why did he buy it for me? My old unit, a torpedo mod and my ERA atomizer (both served me for 3 years or more) are both dying on their feet. It has been misfiring (meaning that even if the atomizer is properly screwed on, well coiled and wicked, it wouldn't fire). Also, the ERA has loose threads and we needed to use a long nose pliers in order to tighten the screws perfectly.  Aside from that, since the ERA is really old, the insulator is now at its last days and there are no available parts for it anymore. Saddening, but then again, it lasted for 3 years without me needing to replace any of its parts. Good buy!

And here's how it looks like:



What did it come with?

The package contains the following:

1 Mad Hatter Stainless Steel Full Mechanical Hybrid Tube
1 Mad Hatter Stainless Steel Mini Atomizer
1 Wide Bore Drip Tip
2 pieces of Hex Keys
Spare O rings
Spare Screws

Batteries and Charger were of course separate (but since I had been using a full mech mod for 3 years, I have them at a ready at home)

Let's talk about the body:

It's a straight single tube which means that conductivity is far better than my old torpedo mod which consisted of two tubes, one of which is threaded which allowed me to use different sized batteries from an 18350 to an 18650. (That's the only advantage that I have seen so far)

The Mad Hatter system is a Hybrid, meaning that there is no 510 connector that would separate the atomizer from the battery. So, the base would be in direct contact with the battery that is inside the tube.

At the base of the tube, you will find the firing switch. The downside, there is no locking mechanism for it. Meaning, the only thing that you need to do is press the button and as long as your battery is charged and the atomizer coils are working, you can start vaping! The downside would be, if you're not careful with the adjustments, you might end up with a unit that auto fires, so care must be taken when putting this thing inside your bag or pocket.

The switch is copper so it does conduct electricity quite well. However, it can get hot especially when you chain vape.

The Atomizer


It has an engraving of the Mad Hatter Logo which is quite cool if you ask me. The cap has 3 air holes that you can switch around in order to give you better air flow control. Personally, I use a single air hole set up which gives me decent flavor and cloud production.


It has a flip top cap which makes direct dripping easier. You don't need to worry about where you put your top cap or your drip tip when you have to soak your coils and cotton after enjoying a good chain vape. The mesh that you see is also a spit back shield. I can enjoy a good vape without the juice going inside my mouth and burning my tongue. 

At the base of the atomizer you will see this


It is also copper plated that gives it the best conductivity for a more enjoyable vape experience.

My Overall Impression of the Mad Hatter Mini System:

It's a cheap alternative especially for those who would like to start vaping. For Php 2,000, you would get a good sturdy stainless steel body with an atomizer! All you need to do is buy a bottle of e-juice, a set of batteries and a charger and you're good to go.

The good thing about stainless steel mods is that it is study in its simplicity. You don't have to worry about any circuit boards breaking in case you drop your PV (personal vaporizer) accidentally. The one thing that you do have to worry about is if it drops on someone's head, foot, hands because it will definitely hurt.

As for this system, I do not have any issues with it. It hasn't misfired nor auto-fired in the whole month that I have been using it. The flavor is just right, as long as you know the sweet spot for the coil build based on the kind of juice that you are using. The spit back shield works, as I have yet to experience getting burnt by warm juice entering my mouth. It is easy to build, just make sure that you either don't loose the Hex Key or you have a spare one of the same size with you all the time. The only thing that I noticed though was that the whole top cap of the atomizer is kinda loose on the body. Be careful with it, you don't want it flying off of the base.

The switch is easy to press. And it's adjustable depending on the height that you need for your battery to connect with the base of the atomizer. 

I have dropped it and it still fires. The upside, the top cap of the atomizer now sits well and snug on the base. But, I do not recommend you to drop your unit just to make it fit. 

It's a good starter kit for those who would like to try vaping. Even for the more advanced users who are just looking for a back-up kit, that could take some abuse, this one is worth the price.

If you want to ask me about this system, don't hesitate to contact me. Shoot me an email.
Brightest Blessings!

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Monday, June 13, 2016

Vaping 101: The Whats and Hows

My husband and I have been vaping (using electronic cigarettes) for the past 4 years.  So far, we have had good x-ray results and we have yet to encounter any issues connected to it. 

Over the years, we have collected a number of units that we have enjoyed using, as well as helping us to quit smoking.


The What:

The above units are all stainless steel full mechanical mods (except for the one on the far right). This means that they do not need nor have any wires in them in order to be used. All you need to have are batteries, a well built (coiled and wicked) atomizer and you're good to go. 

The bullet and torpedo mods have served us for a number of years, three to be exact. Last May, my husband bought me my 3rd full mechanical electronic cigarette (2nd from the left) called the Mad Hatter Mini Kit, a hybrid mod. When you say hybrid, the tank or atomizer that you use is directly in contact with the battery. This unit was bought from Mistwood Vape Cafe located in Eastwood City, Libis. 

After a month and several sleepless nights, we both decided that it was time to upgrade our units to what is called the Variable Wattage mods (the one on the far right). The simple reason, we wanted something that would tell us how much resistance our atomizers have. We also wanted something that would be far safer to use compared to the basic full mechanical mods.

The How:

The decision to get into vaping was easy. We just needed someone to point us towards the right direction. Someone who would help us get the information that we should be aware of in order to help us quit smoking. As we have started with really simple units, we hung around vape shops, talked with shop owners and staff who were more than willing to help educate us with regard to vaping.

Why am I posting this? It's to give back to those who have helped us live far better lives. If you need more information regarding vaping and the units that may suit your needs, feel free to email me and I would be more than happy to answer your queries.


Brightest Blessings!

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Friday, June 10, 2016

Encom VoidRay Review

Hubby has traded units with me. He originally had the Torpedo Mod along with the Reactor atomizer. I thought, it they didn't go well together, so I gave him my Bullet Mod and I used his along with my ERA.  Recently, we noticed a burning smell and we realized it was the Bullet and it auto-fired on us. We ended up frying one battery, though thankfully, the atomizer's still intact.

After this incident, we decided that it was time for him to get a new mod. Stainless steel tubes are a little out of style and since we're no newbies (we've been vaping for 4 years now), we thought about getting him a Variable Wattage mod. 

Why do you ask? We wanted a better vaping experience. Decent clouds, better tasting juice, and to save batteries. When we got to Vape or Crave (Cubao Shoe Expo branch, he saw what seemed to be a tough VW mod). It was a new release called the Encom VoidRay. He was sold on it the moment the shop keeper dropped the unit from a certain height. So, after a week of deliberating, he finally said yes to purchasing it.


The Pros:

  • It is lightweight and easy to handle
  • Tough, he had intentionally banged it on the table and dropped it onto the mat at home, and well, it still fires!
  • It fits in the hand perfectly since it is neither too small nor too large
  • On his Haze, using a standard build of single kanthal (.50) at 9 loops with a resistance of .72 Ohms, you can crank up the wattage up to 36(W) without getting the coils too hot. You still enjoy a good vaping experience with decent clouds and a great deal of flavor.


For the Cons:

  • The Haze atomizer does not sit as flush onto the deck of the unit. No worries though, it does not affect the performance of the unit. However, if you're the type who does not like seeing a gap between the atomizer base the unit, this may be a small issue for you.
  • After using it for about two weeks, he noticed that it turns off on its own. Probably a safety feature of the unit to protect it from accidental firing when inside the bag or pocket. 
  • The battery release button can be accidentally pressed since it is located on the side where your fingers may rest while vaping.
  • There were some issues with the battery compartment. He had to make certain adjustments in order to avoid getting the "over current" warning. Although after he made them, it has not displayed the error again.
So far, it seems like everything's working well. We just have to wait and see if it's going to show signs or wear and tear in the next couple of months.  Will we recommend it? If you're the type who drops his/her mod accidentally for what ever reasons, we would suggest that you try this mod out. It's tough and hey! it does live up to expectations that was set by the manufacturer! 

If you want to ask us about the performance of the void ray, please email me.

Brightest Blessings!

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Monday, April 4, 2016

Keeping a Man Faithful, How?



While it is so common to hear that men are polygamous by nature, I'd still like to believe that men can be monogamous by choice. It may not be an easy task, but it is possible. Our men would also need a lot of help from us, their women to help keep them on the straight and narrow path. So, how, you might ask?

There are no straight answers, no proven, tried and tested formula to such. We are all different and our situations vary as much as there is variations to language and our lifestyle. However, here are some simple tips that might help you keep your man faithful, appreciate you more, realize what a catch you are and feel stupid should they even entertain the idea of letting you go.


1. Let's fix our attitudes, shall we?

  • Don't fucking nag your man. They don't appreciate the constant questioning, pardon me interrogating. They're not criminals. They're just late in getting home! Traffic sucks in Manila ALL the time.
  • Give them TRUST. Sometimes they do the stupidest of things that we accuse them of, just because we keep on drilling it in their heads. The logic, "I'm not doing anything and you're thinking that way, might as well give you what you're really yapping about."
  • RESPECT. Let's avoid checking on their phones and phone bills now. You can connect the dots of this little tip with the one posted before it.
  • Let their eyes wander! Come on! Ladies, your man appreciates beauty, that's why he's with you. He appreciated YOUR beauty whether it be physical, inside or better yet both. Be glad that they still have clear eyesight. I mean, the moment they say that you're the only beautiful thing in the world, you have got to start wondering if there's something wrong with their brain process, their eyesight or all of the above. Remember that you are still THE MOST beautiful woman in the world in their eyes no matter if they say that the chick who passed by is cute, beautiful or even if she looks like Angelina Jolie!
  • I know that many women can defend and hold themselves all by their freaking lonesome. However, there are times that our men just want to be protective of us. ALLOW them to become the gentleman that they really are. If they want to hold the door open for you, let them. If they want to open the car door for you, smile and thank them. Just don't expect and ask that they do this ALL the time. They still want their women to be independent at times. The trick is, make them feel needed, it helps boost up their sense of self and helps them establish their role as the head of the family.
2. Let's get PHYSICAL

  • Yeah, I don't have a perfect coca-cola body. Dang! I know that. I have flabs, I have scars. Fuck! I have  imperfections. I don't hide them, instead I claim them as part of me. Shit! We have different body types, skin types, blood types and type this or that. Just make sure that you take care of yourself. Comb your hair, brush your teeth, take a bath. Make sure you smell good when he comes home and NOT like cleaning products because you were so busy doing the laundry or cleaning the filthy bathroom the whole day.
  • Try dressing up when you go out. It doesn't matter if it's out for a fancy dinner or just doing the errands. Dress appropriately! Leave the sweat pants in the closet Use them when you go for a run or save it for when you're at the gym or when working out. Using them everyday? Please, don't! They don't do anything except stamp you on the back with - HARASSED MOM/WIFE/GF.
  • Oh, and let's try to avoid the AGE OLD EXCUSE that I've been taking care of the kids, yada, yada, yada. Set aside time for yourself. You NEED to take care of yourself, too.
3. Next up: Do things TOGETHER

  • Bond over the simplest, little things. Go to the spa together, get a massage! Relax!
  • Take up a hobby together, it can include, but is not limited to activities like going to the gun range to shoot some 9mm's or whipping up something in the kitchen.
  • If by any chance you think you're not going to enjoy handling the 9mm, try to show some GENUINE interest in what he wants to do. Learn it. Share knowledge. Aside from making your man feel special, you'll be surprised at the amount of things that you would learn if you would only listen.
  • Have kids? Use the time with them to bond together. You can also set aside some time away from them, go to the movies, have dinner or just walk around in a park like a silly teenage couple. Check bullet #1 under this topic. 
4. Romance and the bedroom

  • First and foremost, define your limits. It's not bad and you won't be shot if you voice out the things that you would do and not do inside the bedroom. It's called compromise!
  • Let's connect the dots to let's get physical. Part of the process in ensuring that you don't look like the cleaning lady who's in desperate need of a break is lingerie. You can be wearing an old duster/house dress when he comes home. But, I suggest that you make sure that you're wearing something special under it. Surprise your man with some lace and/or saved for special occasions bra and panties. It can be an exciting thought and sight for your tired and weary man.
  • It's okay to be a warm vanilla in bed. Let's just try to make sure that we know when to add sprinkles or chocolate fudge when the romance starts. Meaning, don't just lie there and wait for the wham-bam thank you ma'am experience. Work it!
  • It's OKAY to be freaky in bed sometimes. Let the devil in you out once in a while. Mix it with your angelic attitude. You won't go to hell for it. Experiment with things that are comfortable to you. It could be a simple blindfolding or it can be as freaky as total domination in bed. Indulge his fantasies once in a while. 
  • Don't be JUST sexual. Let it be a SENSUAL experience for both of you. Start slow. Lovemaking is good. But, you can always turn it up a notch and let it turn into hot steamy SEX. Or, you can totally let go and have a wild fuck fest with your man. Better yet, combine all three!
  • Wind down after the romance. Cuddle, snuggle with your man. Make him feel special.
5. Be the woman that he loved.

  •  After all these, show him the same person that he fell in love with and add some of these special touches to the repertoire:
  • When he's tired, give him a shoulder rub.
  • Prepare his meals
  • Welcome him home with a smile and preferably with a cold glass of juice/water in your hand.
  • Ask him about his day and LISTEN.
It's possible that I've forgotten so many other things. The list goes on and on. Who says that maintaining a relationship is easy? It takes a lot of hard work, adjustments and compromise. 

By the way, it isn't a one way street. So, on the next installment, I'm gonna have something for the guys as well. 

Oh, and if everything seems to have failed, ladies, it's time to drop the son of a bitch like a sack of hot potatoes. He doesn't deserve you at all. Any thoughts, guys?
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