Thursday, November 30, 2017

I'm Depressed!

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If there's one thing that's driving me crazy these days is this claim: I'M DEPRESSED! 

So many people these days are throwing around the word so often that we tend to forget its real meaning. DEPRESSION is not something to be trifled with. It's a serious illness. It's something that needs to be addressed because it does lead to FATALITIES.

The illness does have several warning signs that we should look out for. However, it doesn't mean that when one is experiencing mood swings or an intense feeling of grief, one is already classified as depressed. 

In order for one to understand the illness better, the person whom we suspect is experiencing this debilitating disease should be brought to a professional for further evaluation. Should the professional deem it to be such, then, there are steps that should be taken in order to address this issue. 

So, what am I trying to say here? Let's not throw the term around carelessly. Many are truly suffering because of it. If we keep labeling one as such, chances are, those who are really experiencing depression might be overlooked and be given clumsy advice that does not help. 

Let's be respectful and considerate. 

Brightest Blessings!

 Halie

Friday, November 24, 2017

Dear Diary

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It's just a really short post. 

There was a time when a lot of us knew the meaning of the word - PRIVACY. Those of us who kept diaries valued it so much that we kept these books of our triumphs, happiness, sadness, woes, and even heartbreaks in places that were difficult to find. We made sure that no one ever laid their hands on them without our permission. We kept those thoughts and emotions to ourselves, hiding them even from our own mothers, sisters, fathers, and all those whom we love and trust.

However, with the advent of the internet, social media, and other networking sites, many have chosen to forego this value. Many have chosen to write their most private thoughts and publish it for all the world to see. And at times, these people get more depressed and angry when no one reads what they've written. Weird, but true.

Brightest Blessings!

 Halie

Saturday, November 4, 2017

Stupid is as stupid gets



I have said this once, and I'll say it again.

I am unapologetically direct in all my dealings. I try to be as honest as possible, to a fault because I do seem to be tactless to some MANY.

Recently, I have posted something on a forum which got me the ire of a certain moderator. The reason: WE JUST POSTED SIMILAR THINGS! The only problem on my part, I only posted snippets of a conversation that I had. And the fuck! She got offended by it. I know it's crazy, it's shallow, and it should not be even worth a space on this blog. However, I felt like I needed a place where I can air my side. And since this is MINE, she shouldn't have any control over what I post or write here.

This is how stupid her point was and still is, by the way:



A student of mine said something funny which I couldn't very well share on social media, lest my boss reads it and I lose my job. So, Ms. Stupid decided that she felt like it was an attack on her.

Here's the deal - I FOUND IT FUNNY and I wanted to share something that's worth LOL'ing about. That's who I am. And I will NEVER EVER APOLOGIZE FOR BEING ME.

My question to you then, Ms. Stupid, Who the FUCK are YOU? You seem to think that everything I say is about you. You're like a fucking court of law, you know the line that cops always say when they arrest someone "WHATEVER YOU SAY CAN BE USED AGAINST YOU IN A COURT OF LAW."

If you can't take the heat, honey, get out of the fucking kitchen. Because, NOT EVERYTHING I write is about you. EXCEPT FOR THIS ONE. See, if I have a problem, I fucking address it. The only reason I'm not writing your name down here is I still know the MEANING OF RESPECT. But, since you'll take the things that I write there on the board as an attack against you, I'd rather place this out in the open. Don't be too PARANOID my dear. And I thought you claim yourself to be an EMPATH. So, how come you didn't sense that the post I made wasn't about you?

By the way, I posted your challenge on my personal FB page and here are some responses that I've gotten as to my enquiry.





As you can see, I did not remove my name, which means, I am so not scared of you, bitch! The only reason I took out the photo is because my hubby was with me and I don't want you to see him, so there. LOL! And of course, I have to protect the privacy of the people who answered me. So, dumb-ass bitch, you still gonna stand behind the "BRUNCH BREAKFAST" thing that you so pridefully challenged me with? There's your answer! 

Next time, before you even think that it's about you, THINK AGAIN! I DON'T GIVE A SHIT ABOUT YOU! Secondly, before issuing a challenge, DO YOUR OWN FUCKING RESEARCH FIRST!

Brightest Blessings!

 Halie

Friday, August 18, 2017

The Annoying Know-It-All

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It's been a while since I wrote something like this here. Before we go along with this write-up, let's first define what a Know-It-All is. This is the person who can be annoying as hell because this person presents their ideas, opinions, inputs, etc. as if they are knowledgeable about the subject when in reality, the reverse is true. 

How can we tell the difference between an expert and an insufferable know-it-all?


The author gave us the following tips:

1. An expert asks questions before jumping in to give you their opinions. The reason, they want to get more information so they can tailor-fit their answers to your specific needs. On the other hand, a know-it-all would just jump right in, even without knowing the entire story.

2. Those who have mastery tend to admire others who have mastered the same or a totally different skill set. They realize that there are others out there who may have more experience than them. The annoying KIA would see other experts as competition and threat. 

3. Experts will encourage you to ask around and learn more to make informed decisions, while for those with the attitude, it's more of it's their way or the highway.

4. Experts share their knowledge. A know-it-all does not have anything of value to share.

5. Lastly, an expert would give you long-term advice. The KIA is the total reverse, they will give you what you want to hear, regardless of the value or substance.

The next question you might be asking  yourself when you meet an irritating person would be, How do I deal with this jerk? Here are some of the things that worked for me over the past 2 decades or so:

1. Ignore them. The more I fueled the fire, the more annoying they became. The best thing that worked for me was to not pay any attention. I'd nod my head but what they say goes inside one ear and out the other.

2. Never argue with them. Let them speak their piece and try not to start an argument. 

3. Express your intent loud and clear. A know-it-all would probably have things to say about your choices, etc. When this happens, let that person know that you are aware of the things that you need and want. Should that person try to sway you to their side, don't hesitate to reiterate your statement. 

How about you, do you have any other tips on how to spot a know-it-all and how to deal with them? If you do, please share away in the comments section. Thanks!


Brightest Blessings!

Halie
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